New Dating Trend : Exes Pitched Like Job Referrals in China

Young Chinese are sharing detailed "résumés" of ex-partners online to vouch for them, mixing humor with genuine matchmaking. This viral trend highlights a search for trusted connections amid dating app fatigue, using structured reviews covering traits, habits, and even "user manuals." Some referrals have led to successful matches.

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A new dating phenomenon is taking Chinese social media by storm: young people are treating their former partners like job referrals, complete with résumés, performance reviews, and even user manuals.

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Dubbed "ex-partner referrals," the trend began with a viral post from a frustrated singleton who asked: "Can any sisters refer me to their ex? If I don't find a normal guy soon, I might need to start drinking herbal medicine to rebalance myself."

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The response was overwhelming. Comment sections flooded with women pitching their ex-boyfriends with the enthusiasm of seasoned HR recruiters.

"Born 1995, 183cm, works at a state-owned enterprise, emotionally stable, can cook. Downside: a bit of a mama's boy. Worth considering," one user wrote.

Another offered a current partner on contingency: "How about my boyfriend? If we break up, I'll let you know. He's actually quite generous."

To boost credibility, some even cited references in academic style: "Based on three years of first-hand experience."

The format often mimics a structured résumé:

Location: Shanghai | Age: 28 | MBTI: ISFJ | Zodiac: Cancer

*Strengths: 185cm, fair-skinned, public sector job, emotionally rock-solid*

Weaknesses: Poor kisser, trash-talks during video games

Condition: 90% new — no domestic violence, no infidelity. Broke up due to long distance.

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Helpful netizens have gone a step further, drafting "User Manuals for Ex-Boyfriends" detailing quirks, preferences, and intimate habits: morning soy milk, nighttime teeth-grinding, half-hour of coaxing when upset, and lights-off preference during sex.

Some posts take an unexpectedly extreme turn. One woman offered up her own husband: "I can refer my husband to you. If needed, I'm willing to divorce him. My kid is grown, I don't need him anymore. He's great with children, works from home, does chores. 120-square-meter apartment in Beijing. In-laws are old — probably won't be around in a few years. If he's a good fit, I can divorce him right away."

Surprisingly, some referrals actually work. One netizen shared that after a woman moving abroad amicably broke up with her boyfriend and recommended him online, the referral recipient met him — and they turned out to be a perfect match.

Behind the humor lies a deeper unease. For many young Chinese, dating apps are minefields of scammers, pickup artists, and heavily filtered photos. Trust is scarce, and the cost of a bad match is high.

So they turn to strangers who share something valuable: first-hand data, no filter required.





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Man Loses $130,000 on Lottery, Loses Court Case for Refund。

Summary: A man in China spent 900,000 yuan on lottery tickets via social media, then sued the seller and lottery authority, arguing the sales method was illegal. The court rejected his claim, stating he participated voluntarily and understood the risk.

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Man Loses US$130,000 on Lottery Tickets, Sues Seller and Authorities — Court Says No Refund.


A man in eastern China who spent a small fortune on lottery tickets without winning anything has failed in his attempt to get his money back through the courts.

The man, identified by his surname He, lives in Hefei, Anhui province. Over the course of about one month in 2023, he spent around 900,000 yuan (about US$130,000) buying lottery tickets. 

Despite the huge amount of money spent, he did not win any prizes.

Instead of purchasing the tickets in person, He placed his orders through a social media app

He would send his chosen numbers and transfer money directly to a lottery sales agent, surnamed Zhang

After receiving the payment, Zhang went to a physical lottery shop, bought the tickets, and then sent photos of the tickets back to He as proof of purchase.

After losing all the money, He decided to take legal action. 

He sued both the sales agent and the local lottery management authority, claiming the way the tickets were sold was not legal. 

According to He, using social media to place orders, transferring money privately, and confirming purchases with photos did not follow proper lottery sales rules. On that basis, he argued the transactions should be declared invalid and demanded a full refund plus interest.

The case was heard by the Baohe District People's Court in Hefei. The court rejected He's claims.

Judges ruled that there was no evidence the sales agent had cheated him, misled him, or pressured him into spending large amounts of money. 

The court also pointed out that He made the purchases voluntarily and was fully aware that lottery tickets do not guarantee any winnings.

The ruling stated that buying lottery tickets is a risk-based activity, and losing money is a possible and well-known outcome. 

Since He chose to participate and completed the transactions willingly, he must accept the result.

The case sparked online discussion in China, with many people debating gambling habits and the risks of chasing big wins. 

Some commenters said the story was a warning about how quickly lottery spending can spiral out of control, while others agreed with the court that personal responsibility should come first.

In the end, the court made it clear: losing a gamble is not a legal reason for a refund.

Source:https://www.scmp.com/news/people-culture/trending-china/article/3342479/chinese-man-loses-us130000-lottery-tickets-sues-shop-authorities-illegal-process

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